Dowry.. is it really a curse!? #ShortStory

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This article has been published on the Women’s Web page. Please find the link to the article here : Dowry… Or No? [#ShortStory]

New year 2017 had just begun.1st week of new year, one lazy afternoon, Naina was at her desk reading her daily dose of news on her laptop.

One particular news article caught Naina’s attention.. “GOVT ASKS STATES TO BLOCK MATRIMONIAL SITES ENCOURAGING DOWRY — The Union government has informed the Bombay High Court that it has issued guidelines to all the states to block matrimonial websites encouraging dowry.”

Naina leaned back in her desk chair and looked outside the window aimlessly into the open space.She flashed back to the time when she was just out of college and her family members like most elders in our indian society were desperately looking for a groom for her.

Naina belonged to a normal middle class family. She was open to the idea of arranged marriage and stated one thing very clearly to her parents, “Look for whoever you want, but No Dowry! I shall run away from the mandap if that happens!” Her parents gave her a look, but later agreed to her.

Naina got a lot of proposals as she was a young, smart, just out of college, Architecture student. Her parents cautiously avoided families that had intentions of dowry. The search had been going on for almost a year. One fine day a relative had come up with a probable proposal of a doctor for Naina. After a bit of hesitation she had agreed to meet the guy.

The meet was a very pleasant one. Naina had even liked the guy. After 2 days the guy’s family responded saying that they liked the girl too, but they would also like a dowry of Rs.10 Lakhs so the boy could set up a clinic of his own after marriage. Naina had been very furious at why did she have to meet the guy in the first place if they were expecting dowry. Her parents made her understand that their relative was unaware of her condition and eventually calmed her down.

Few months later, Naina finally met her groom to be. The guy belonged to a good family. Both families were very happy with their respective alliances and hence went ahead with the wedding arrangements. Naina belonged to a community which traditionally believes that the girl’s parents incur the costs of the entire wedding. Though modern day today not everyone follows that religiously, but at the time that Naina was getting married, it was followed.

During the course of the preparation, Naina realized, her parents were the only people making all the arrangements. The guy’s family had no contribution whatsoever in any of the wedding expenses. They just decided the wedding and reception venues and the rest all had to be taken care by Naina’s parents. Naina was really surprised when she came to know about it. But she never really had the courage to question her parents about the expenditure. She thought if it was beyond limits, her father would tell her. The marriage completed successfully in the presence of all the relatives from the groom’s and bridegroom’s side, some of whom Naina had never seen before in her life.

Many weeks after the marriage, when Naina had gone home to visit her parents, she happened to see a mail from the bank for her father lying on the dining table with rest of the mails. Out of curiosity, to get a peek into the money that her parents had spent for the wedding, Naina slit the envelope open. Naina’s jaws dropped and eyes widened in shock. Her father had taken a loan of 50 lakhs for the wedding. She could not believe what she saw. She put the letter away and never discussed it with anyone again. Nor did her parents ever discuss this with her.

Naina is a happily married woman today. Blessed with 2 beautiful children and is very content in her life. But there are times when the amount she had seen on the bank letter flashes to her mind.

Today, when she saw the news item, after all these years, Naina thought to herself…

“Directly or Indirectly she had become a part of the unavoidable dowry system. At one point she had met a guy who upfront asked for a 10 Lakhs dowry and had agreed to share the cost of the marriage. On the other hand she had married her husband with her parents paying entirely for the marriage. The guy’s family hasn’t done anything wrong here. They just followed the age old tradition of the bridegroom’s family paying for it all. Naina’s parents never took a step back nor did they ever discuss with the grooms family, even though they landed up paying for the loan for the rest of their lives , with a fear that their only daughter Naina’s marriage would get stalled and if Naina came to know about it she would not agree to marry.”

What happened in her own life sometimes makes Naina think, if her parents had eventually agreed to the dowry of the Doctor, her father would have spent way less money than what he actually did!! Is the notion of Dowry… really a curse!?

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